After I had a child, I was labeled a “mom”.
When I worked, I was a “working mom” or a “WAHM” as all the cool kids call it.
Now that I don’t work out of the home, I’m a “stay-at-home mom”, otherwise known as a “SAHM”.
Or am I?
As I was recently writing another post about being a mom who doesn’t work outside the home, a little light bulb went on in my head.
I’m not a stay-at-home mom or a SAHM.
I am a “Household CEO”.
This position includes a slew of duties. Here are just a few:
I effectively lead “the organization”, A.K.A. my family, so that everyone can be as successful as possible, myself included.
I coordinate morning schedules so that everyone is up, fed, and dressed in time for school or any other place we need to go.
I strategically plan activities so that my children are well-rounded and educated, but not exhausted.
I try to create unique menus for breakfast, lunch, and dinner in hopes that something healthy lands on their plates. “Try” being the operative word here.
I interact with the CFO of the house to make sure I adhere to a budget. This means couponing and shopping methodically. Many times this also entails actually creating a budget. By the way, this is a talent and it’s not being “cheap”. It’s being economical and smart.
I teach my children the basics of life as well as educate them to supplement what they are learning in school.
Sometimes, I need to include the input of the Board of Directors (A.K.A my children). This is only done in dire situations. Sometimes the Board does not share the same vision of the organization. This is highly annoying.
I also try to instill values of the organization so that all members can be respectful and thrive.
Whew…I’m exhausted just making this list! I know there are so many other things I do, as do other woman who do not work outside of the home. I also understand that many mothers who do work outside the home do many, if not all of these things too.
I just feel that the”Household CEOs” are more often looked down upon because we are not bringing home a weekly paycheck. Many think we are uneducated and couldn’t possibly get a “real” job. Others think we are members of some elite group that lies around all day watching TV or getting our nails done. Both of these scenarios couldn’t be more unrealistic. If you stay at home to raise your children you should feel empowered, not ashamed.
Many women who have taken time off from their careers to solely raise their children fear the response they will receive when and if they return to the working world. What will prospective employers think about a three year professional gap? Are they going to think we were lazy?
Should we put down that we were stay-at-home moms? Will we be passed over if we do?
What about if we put down “Household CEO”? I’m sure many employers would laugh. Others might think of it as highly creative.
When it’s time to revamp my résumé, I think I’m opting for “Household CEO”. If someone finds it funny or stupid, then they’re obviously someone who doesn’t deserve my talents. I’m sure many others will see the skills used as a “Household CEO” are extremely useful in the working world.
What’s your take on all of this?