“Mommy, where do babies come from?”
It’s the question many parents dread no matter what age their child may be. No matter how you answer, nothing good is going to come from it.
a) Depending on your answer, your child may not believe you.
b) Depending on your answer your child will have more questions. Or…
c) Depending on your answer your child may not believe you and will have more questions.
My guess is that the answer is C.
Well, a variation of that question keeps popping up in my house more frequently than a darn whac-a-mole.
“Mommy, how do babies get in the belly?” asks my almost four-year-old.
Think fast. Think fast!
Answer: “Well, if a mommy really wants a baby, she makes a wish and prays that the baby will come in her belly. If she’s lucky, she will have a baby in her belly.”
I know, not the best explanation. But, I don’t think we need to start drawing diagrams and have the birds and bees conversation at this age no matter how educated we want our kids to be. Personally, I think it’s a little TMI for a three-year-old to handle. So, I go with my answer. In response, I get:
“What about boys? Can boys ask for babies?”
Answer: “No.” I decided to go with a cut and dry answer this time around. But, now my six-year-old decides to listen in and give her two cents. Good grief, I’m being tag-teamed.
Question: “Well, why?”
Answer: “It’s just the way it is.”
They seem to have bought what I just sold.
Sigh. I can breathe a little easier. That is, until that question rears its ugly head again in a couple of days.
I know many people out there may think I’m doing my kids a disservice by not being honest with them about how babies really get in the belly. What’s wrong with protecting their innocence a little longer, especially at ages 3 and 6 (especially age 3)? I know they need to know. I know I run the risk of someone else bursting my bubble. But, I guess that’s the chance I take.
I know there will come a day (sooner than I would like) that I will have to honestly explain how all the parts fit together and how things really work. But, just not at age 3. I know there will be even more questions that I will have to answer. I will answer them all…honestly.
So, have you had “the talk” with your kids? How do you answer “the question”?